Generally as women reach menopause age their life becomes quite a bit simpler and choices and decisions come with more ease. But for many women, old patterns hold on tight and the inner work of connecting with their authentic self and releasing old beliefs and ways of being takes a few years at least.

Most of my coaching clients decide to try coaching to reach some specific goal or end result, they already have an idea of what it is they really want - they just feel stuck in some way. On the other hand, I have had a few clients that really can’t get in touch with what it is they are looking for, what that illusive happiness or fulfillment might be. In both cases, I highly recommend an exercise to uncover what it is that they are tolerating in their life.

What are the numerous things that you ‘put up with’ day after day, year after year? How have these tolerations road-blocked you and sapped your energy and passion?

You have probably heard the ‘positive attitude’ question posed: If you could not possibly fail, what would you set out to accomplish? Maybe it works for some people afraid of failure. But I sense that it is more common for women at menopause age to fear success, of being GREAT, being POWERFUL.

All the positive talk and affirmations in the world can not help someone who is so stressed by their ‘tolerations’ and so void of energy because of all the ‘pretending’ in their lives. Some things will need to drop away to make room for the forward movement. So maybe you would like to do an assessment - make a list of all the things that you are tolerating!

I invite you to share some of your insights - add your list or other thoughts on this process.

1. Sue Richards said…

   I’m lucky in regards to the tolerating business. I chose not to be a mother or a wife. This greatly cuts down on my tongue biting. But so many women are crammed to the craw with suppose tos, have tos and must dos that it boggles my mind.

   I wish you the greatest success in helping even a single woman out of this unforunate head space.

   Best,

   Sue Richards

   Comment by Sue Richards — Jul 4, 2006 @ 5:09 am

2. Oberon said…

   …….tolerance is not the same as putting up with an unacceptable issue……which is really a compromise of what is acceptable to you……start with acceptance…….then choose to be involved if a compromise will not compromise your values……confused yet?…..it all comes down to you…..it’s your choice……make the choice that you can live with without feeling resentment about compromising your values about what is acceptable to you…..got all that?

   Comment by Oberon — May 3, 2007 @ 5:10 am

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